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The marriage in the middle

By Alison Lumbatis · April 12, 2026

The marriage in the middle

We met young. We grew up in the same kitchen. We've been three different couples already inside this one marriage - and I suspect we'll be a few more before we're done.

"You don't fall in love once. You fall in love again with the person they're becoming."

Long love is not the absence of work. It's the willingness to keep choosing - on the hard Tuesdays, in the quiet seasons, after the kids leave.

The thing I know now that I didn't know at 30: you don't fall in love once. You fall in love again, and again, with the person they're becoming. That's the whole practice.

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